“It is better to follow the Voice inside and be at war with the whole world, than to follow the ways of the world and be at war with your deepest self.”
~ Michael Pastore
No one feels your emotions, only you. No one thinks your thoughts, only you. No one can follow your internal guidance but you, and if you’re ignoring, overriding, and circumventing that system in order to follow the advice of your family, friends, and that mysterious “they” who say what you should and should not do, then you are “at war with your deepest self”.
This war with your deepest self results in a separation between who you really are and who you are being. When you are navigating life by outside guidance, chances are astronomically high that you are feeling an uneasiness, a discontent, an emptiness; at the very least, a distinct grumpiness. This “offness” cannot be alleviated by even the best cup of coffee, decadent chocolate, hottest date or fattest bank account. Maybe all of them at the same time. However, whether you’re grumpy or not, those things are nice to have, so knock yourself out!
Close that gap between your real self and your “please-those-around-me” self by learning to listen to your Voice inside and honor that above all else. Say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no. Learn to tune in to the conversation you have with yourself and make that conversation and relationship the best and most important of all your relationships. You can still have all the perks, and they will taste and fit even better!