Untapped potential is so much easier to see on someone else than it is to see within yourself. It is easy for me to look at you and see your brilliance, your capacity for accomplishment, and even where you’re missing some opportunities and making some knot-headed decisions.
That may be one of the best gifts that I can give you, to reflect what I see back to you so that you can see yourself more clearly. No judgment, no demands, no attachment to outcomes. That is definitely one of the best gifts that you can give to me.
I have received that gift recently. There is an amazing young man in my life with whom I have had the chance to interact with more closely than usual in the last couple of weeks. He has unknowingly given me this gift. I see the potential in him – it oozes out of him – but he has not been living up to it for the past several months. Years, really. I wonder to myself how he could miss something so obvious.
Then I remember to ask myself about how I’m doing with that. Dang it. I have quite a load of untapped potential myself. I can’t help but consider my own life and all that I am tolerating and leaving undone and where I am settling for less than what I really want.
Up until about a year and a half ago, I had worked in the corporate world. I desperately wanted to create a business for myself, doing work that I truly enjoy and doing it on my own terms, but I had nothing left after dragging myself, kicking and whining, to work for way too many hours each week. I let this go on for decades.
It was a long time coming, but I have an amazing opportunity right now. Because of my incredibly generous and very successful husband, I no longer drag myself to work. For the last year and a half I have been totally at choice as to how I spend my days. I have plenty of money and plenty of time. Countless people would give a major appendage for an opportunity like this.
I am in the middle of that opportunity and I still have all my appendages. I have been exploring options, searching within to become clear on what I truly want, and have even accomplished a major goal of earning a life coach certification from a top school. However, the interaction with the amazing young man has made me question whether I am really making the most of this opportunity or just coasting.
Maybe it was appropriate to coast for a little while and decompress after all the years of work that didn’t fit quite right. I’m okay with that. But what about now? I believe the time has come to step up and step into some of my own untapped potential. As I continue to hold the vision for the young man in my life and help him see what he can be, I’m choosing to include myself in the mix.
It’s time to draw a line in the sand and think a little differently than I have been. It’s time to demand more of myself than what I’ve been living. I suspect as I do that for myself, it will inspire and encourage those around me to step up in a much bigger and more satisfying way. Everyone wins!